Disclaimer; this opinion is coming from an incredibly unregulated emotional person, so take my opinion with a grain of salt, or the whole fucking shaker.
The reason I am writing this is because I’ve seen a lot of positivity blogs, youtube videos and whatnot. And I feel like I need to get my opinion out on this, not that I’m incredibly sure I’m correct or anything.
But in my opinion, forced positivity is more then just an incredibly annoying mindset for anybody else experiencing these vomit-worthy positive people, I think it’s an incredibly unhealthy mindset.
Because happiness is a state of mind, and to even achieve that state of mind, it requires you to experience emotions you don’t want to experience.
There is no such thing as feeling happy, if you have not experienced sadness.
There is no satisfaction without first experiencing problems to overcome.
All of our emotions are important, we are the smartest species on the planet, yet most of us can barely stand the feelings that make us uncomfortable.
Fear exists, because without fear, we wouldn’t have bravery. And to say that fear doesn’t exist is fucking delusional.
That’s what I think about forced positivity, it’s delusional. It is not truth.
It’s the equivalent of sticking your head in the sand going, la la la, if I can’t see or hear it then it can’t hurt me.
Guess what? Life fucking sucks and we are all going to die one day. Think that’s harsh? Life is fucking harsh!
And guess what? It doesn’t matter whether you ‘push out some good vibes’ or beat your head against a wall in frustration, nothing is ever going to change the above fact. The world will keep turning whether you are crying or smiling, the universe doesn’t give a fuck about you in particular, it’s too busy being awesome and holding planets and shit.
And if you’re angry about that then good, be angry, anger can be one of the most useful emotions that we have. Because if you’re angry about something, it means you’re not happy with whatever it is you’re angry at. It means you’re more likely to want to change that situation over sitting there and being content with it. Because nobody is content when they’re angry.
If everybody got angry at the world’s situation then maybe it would change, but sitting around praying or telling people to smile because the world is beautiful, does not change shit! In fact it just shows how easy your life is and how fucking selfish you are because these poor struggling people are bringing you down with their sadness.
Sadness is also important, because when we feel sad we have more of an ability to undestand other people. You really think we are all connected in this world through our happiness and good deeds? Fuck no, this isn’t a disney movie, we are all connected by the pain that everyone experiences just from being alive.
This is what empathy is, and it’s incredibly hard to have any empathy for anyone else when you’re too busy concentrating on your own fake happiness.
There is much more wisdom in pessimism then there is in optimism. Pessimism lowers your expectations so that when things do go wrong (which they will) it’s less painful. Pessimism makes you question things and people, making you trust your own instincts over anything else.
There is also a lot of beauty in sadness. Some of the best art and music was created with this emotion.
If you don’t feel scared in a world like this, then what the fuck is wrong with you? Are you living under some positivity rock? Why aren’t you scared? There is danger around every corner, and theres a huge percentage that something really bad will happen to you.
There is so much to be afraid of in this world, and people with no fear usually take stupid risks and die. I know that seems like black and white thinking but it’s true.
Without fear, there is no self preservation.
Fear is not a useless emotion! Fear stops us from doing dumb shit, like walking in front of oncoming traffic or diving into the ocean thinking we can swim in that depth.
And without first being afraid, how do you then face that fear and learn from it?
This is not meant to be a post telling you not to try and think positively or hope for better things, even though it may seem like I am.
Hope is all we really have in this world.
All I’m saying is, don’t be brainwashed by these people who seem to think that if you ignore every other emotion aside from happiness, then everything will be ok.
Because it will never be ok if you think like that.
You need to face up to the emotions that make you uncomfortable, it’s your brains way of telling you that something is wrong and you need to work on it. You need to respect those emotions, because if it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t be capable of feeling happiness at all.
Society has forced us into this state of mind, where we feel broken and wrong because we aren’t as happy as what the media keeps pushing out that we should be. We label emotional people as sick, we force them full of pills and we loathe their very existence because they’re always such ‘downers’.
Positivity is just another tool in the system used to sell you shit. It’s just mass manipulation so that you’ll continue to buy things.
We are more human for feeling bad, because life is hard and people get hurt so much.
You don’t have to be strong in this life, but you do have to be brave.
You have to try, try your fucking hardest.
We try and we hope, and that’s all we can do.
We have to give all of our emotions the respect they deserve, instead of disregarding them because its too hard to face.
You need to be brave, not positive.