Fuck Your Forced Positivity

Disclaimer; this opinion is coming from an incredibly unregulated emotional person, so take my opinion with a grain of salt, or the whole fucking shaker.

The reason I am writing this is because I’ve seen a lot of positivity blogs, youtube videos and whatnot. And I feel like I need to get my opinion out on this, not that I’m incredibly sure I’m correct or anything.

But in my opinion, forced positivity is more then just an incredibly annoying mindset for anybody else experiencing these vomit-worthy positive people, I think it’s an incredibly unhealthy mindset.

Because happiness is a state of mind, and to even achieve that state of mind, it requires you to experience emotions you don’t want to experience.

There is no such thing as feeling happy, if you have not experienced sadness.

There is no satisfaction without first experiencing problems to overcome.

All of our emotions are important, we are the smartest species on the planet, yet most of us can barely stand the feelings that make us uncomfortable.

Fear exists, because without fear, we wouldn’t have bravery. And to say that fear doesn’t exist is fucking delusional.

That’s what I think about forced positivity, it’s delusional. It is not truth.

It’s the equivalent of sticking your head in the sand going, la la la, if I can’t see or hear it then it can’t hurt me.

Guess what? Life fucking sucks and we are all going to die one day. Think that’s harsh? Life is fucking harsh!

And guess what? It doesn’t matter whether you ‘push out some good vibes’ or beat your head against a wall in frustration, nothing is ever going to change the above fact. The world will keep turning whether you are crying or smiling, the universe doesn’t give a fuck about you in particular, it’s too busy being awesome and holding planets and shit.

And if you’re angry about that then good, be angry, anger can be one of the most useful emotions that we have. Because if you’re angry about something, it means you’re not happy with whatever it is you’re angry at. It means you’re more likely to want to change that situation over sitting there and being content with it. Because nobody is content when they’re angry.

If everybody got angry at the world’s situation then maybe it would change, but sitting around praying or telling people to smile because the world is beautiful, does not change shit! In fact it just shows how easy your life is and how fucking selfish you are because these poor struggling people are bringing you down with their sadness.

Sadness is also important, because when we feel sad we have more of an ability to undestand other people. You really think we are all connected in this world through our happiness and good deeds? Fuck no, this isn’t a disney movie, we are all connected by the pain that everyone experiences just from being alive.

This is what empathy is, and it’s incredibly hard to have any empathy for anyone else when you’re too busy concentrating on your own fake happiness.

There is much more wisdom in pessimism then there is in optimism. Pessimism lowers your expectations so that when things do go wrong (which they will) it’s less painful. Pessimism makes you question things and people, making you trust your own instincts over anything else.

There is also a lot of beauty in sadness. Some of the best art and music was created with this emotion.

If you don’t feel scared in a world like this, then what the fuck is wrong with you? Are you living under some positivity rock? Why aren’t you scared? There is danger around every corner, and theres a huge percentage that something really bad will happen to you.

There is so much to be afraid of in this world, and people with no fear usually take stupid risks and die. I know that seems like black and white thinking but it’s true.

Without fear, there is no self preservation.

Fear is not a useless emotion! Fear stops us from doing dumb shit, like walking in front of oncoming traffic or diving into the ocean thinking we can swim in that depth.

And without first being afraid, how do you then face that fear and learn from it?

This is not meant to be a post telling you not to try and think positively or hope for better things, even though it may seem like I am.

Hope is all we really have in this world.

All I’m saying is, don’t be brainwashed by these people who seem to think that if you ignore every other emotion aside from happiness, then everything will be ok.

Because it will never be ok if you think like that.

You need to face up to the emotions that make you uncomfortable, it’s your brains way of telling you that something is wrong and you need to work on it. You need to respect those emotions, because if it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t be capable of feeling happiness at all.

Society has forced us into this state of mind, where we feel broken and wrong because we aren’t as happy as what the media keeps pushing out that we should be. We label emotional people as sick, we force them full of pills and we loathe their very existence because they’re always such ‘downers’.

Positivity is just another tool in the system used to sell you shit. It’s just mass manipulation so that you’ll continue to buy things.

We are more human for feeling bad, because life is hard and people get hurt so much.

You don’t have to be strong in this life, but you do have to be brave.

You have to try, try your fucking hardest.

We try and we hope, and that’s all we can do.

We have to give all of our emotions the respect they deserve, instead of disregarding them because its too hard to face.

You need to be brave, not positive.

 

 

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The Media VS Reality

Since being here, I’ve been forced to endure what I have been avoiding for the past 6 years…

Mainstream Media.

And the only thing I could think to myself was…

What a huge, steaming pile of bullshit.

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I also think, how in the actual fuck can people take this shit seriously, especially considering the way they turn their media stories from news into full action-packed mini films with their fancy powerpoint slides explaining every point of detail like it’s a new fucking crime series. No news reporter even cares about what they’re reading anymore (if they ever did), they all just sit there, trying to look presentable, just reading the news. They could be reading about the deaths of children, murder in the first degree, extreme acts of racism and gang rapings of women, they don’t feel a fucking thing. It’s just a story, just entertainment, pulled from the ugliest depths of our existence. And then people watch it, and it’s nothing more then a horror story that you regularly see on the news. We expect it, all that shit is just a story, almost impossible to distinguish from fiction writing considering how desensitised we are from feeling anything at all for our fellow human.

These reporters spend more time thinking of witty segueways and stupid puns to go with the story then the actual facts of the fucking thing.

Fuck me, what a joke. What a shitstorm. You don’t even need action, thriller or horror movies anymore, just put on your local news, and you’ll feel the fear.

Fear-mongering or scaremongering, is a deliberate use of fear based tactics including exaggeration and usually repetition to influence the public in order to achieve a desired outcome. It is a tactic used to scare or put fear into those viewing a campaign/advertisement and influence the outcome based on fear.

Wake up.

The world isn’t terrible, it’s really not. If anything, we have improved our opinions and knowledge on a lot of things. So why does the media have so much terrible shit to throw at us lately?

Because more people are starting to realise that mainstream media is nothing more then a mass form of manipulation.

I’m not writing this because I’m a tin-foil hat-wearing conspiracy theorist. In fact, I believe there are some documentaries on that side of the fence that are just as manipulative as the mainstream media. I’m writing this just from what I can see, from my own experiences and my own research. Because I don’t like being told by any group what I should and should not think. And this isn’t a post telling you to stop watching the news or anything. All I’m saying is;

See the media for what it is, and start thinking for yourself.

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Everything happening right now, is nothing new. These are all the same problems that have plagued us for centuries. What cloud are you living on to think that just because it’s 2016 these problems should have miraculously disappeared by now? I’m telling you right now, they won’t. These are problems that have lingered with us since the dawn of time. They aren’t just going to go away because everything else is advancing.

I’m not debating that the world isn’t a fucked up place. It is.

But that doesn’t mean that YOUR reality has to be a fucked up place.

I choose not to watch mainstream media, or be on feacesbook, because I don’t want that bullshit as part of MY reality. You can view that in two different ways (or more if you’re a big thinker); I’m living in a delusional world I created for myself because I can’t deal with the harshness in the world or; I choose not to let what others do dictate the way I want to see things, so I can make as much difference as I can to what I see.

I see these as both correct, I live in a semi-delusional world where I chose to shut my eyes and go lalala nothing bad is happening. The reason I do this though is because if I went back there, I would lose my mind and my hope for existence, and if I can’t see the point in helping what can never be helped, then nothing will change.

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I understand where this supposed ‘renowned hostility’ comment came from about Australia. There is a minority group lobbying to stop some housing being built for Muslims or some shit like that. According to the world we are apparently a very Islamophobic country. I could start throwing the word ‘hypocrite’ to the person that said it in a passing comment, because they’d rather go to New Zealand over Australia due to this ‘hostility’ even though they are from America… But I’m not going to, that would make me just as ignorant and racist as they are.

It pisses me off that people choose to blindly follow the news and judge something, someone or somewhere even though they have never seen, met or been. It makes me see red when people choose to spread their ignorant, hateful opinions on a social platform. But I guess that’s why I’m a hostile Aussie, right?

People like you have no idea about our country, our history, or what we’ve been through as a nation. You only see what your media wants you to see. Yet most Australian kids know every single American holiday, why you have it and the history behind it, through all the cartoons and American media we live off. Do you even have a clue that we were just Britian’s convicts, or that we lost the majority of our troops on Anzac Day because we got used as fodder by the English, or that we’ve only been a federation for 116 years?

And for fucks sake there is nothing wrong with the kids of today! There is nothing wrong with advancing in technology and medicine! If anything, I hold all my hope in the Millennials because they are the smartest generation yet. They learn so quickly it’s astonishing, and that’s all thanks to the internet. All thanks to the new celebrities that the kids look up to, YouTube creators. All thanks, to the advancement of technology.

As each generation has passed, we have grown, yet it’s always the same stupid argument from the generation previously; the kids have no idea what it was like living in our time, they don’t appreciate what we had to go through blahblahblahblah BULLSHIT!

Of course we don’t understand, that’s YOUR generation, how the fuck are we supposed to understand anything we haven’t experienced ourselves? When you tell the kids that they’re a bunch of lazy, technology-obsessed whingers, can you not see that you are just as stuck in your ways, with your refusal to accept that the world needs to move forward. It’s not a bad thing, it’s an exciting thing. You can’t just sit there and fucking tell me that the generation you grew up in was fucking roses, because that’s fucking bullshit and you know it. And the last thing this generation needs is the over-criticising comments from the older generations who are starting to lose the power they once had in this world.

Stop saying the world is fucked. If it’s fucked, do something. Don’t just sit there and whinge about it. Talking doesn’t help, action does. The only person you are hurting is yourself. Why? What’s the fucking point?

Encourage the kids. Encourage them to be better then us.

Encourage them to speak up.

Encourage them to think for themselves.

Encourage them to learn.

This is the only way to change the world. Let the newer generations take control, they have fresh ideas, they have more knowledge. They are smarter. They care more, they feel more.

And most importantly, they’re the ones growing up in this day and age.

It’s Gen Y’s turn to rise up into power soon, my generation, the generation with double the numbers of the Baby Boomers. We are working on it. The majority of us want to change, want the world to change with us.

Stop concentrating on the minority who still wants everyone to suffer. These are not the majority, they are just the loudest of us.

Stop blaming the ignorance of the people either. You don’t win arguments by telling people they are stupid. You do it through understanding and educating.

The rest of the world is not your enemy.

This is:

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We Have To Vote Too You Know

So the Australian election is coming up, did you know we don’t have a president we have a prime minister? Oh and only 3 parties any votes go to (even though we have like 300 little parties, maybe a slight exaggeration) and that we all have to vote or else we face the grave penalty of, wait for it, $25 fine, for not voting.

So I thought I’d share with you our politics, because of how interesting it is… (Well it used to be when Tony Abbott was eating raw onions, telling the Irish they were all drunks and threatening to shirtfront Vladimir Putin).

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I thought this was hilarious, it’s a bit of an inside joke. Tony Abbott got so hated by the public that the media tended to film him doing nice things, and in doing so seemed to think it would be a good idea to film him eating stuff in the stories. Fuck knows why, do people like people better when they’re eating?

 

 

 

So hopefully I don’t piss off any political Aussies on here, and keep in mind this is an explanation of politics from an idiot, who doesn’t really understand how the governments work properly yet (I’m still a 24 year old child, money, news and politics are boring).

As I mentioned before, there are 3 main parties that get voted for, I’d argue there was only 2 but the 3 we have are Liberal, Labour and the Greens. It used to be pretty straight forward, left wing, right wing and the dirty hippies. You only time people vote for the greens is because; they’re a stoner, they’re a hippie, they don’t know anything about politics, they know a lot about politics and want to help the environment, or… Because there is literally no better option by election time. The Greens never make it in though, they’re like the appeasal party for the alternatives.

So I guess I’ll just mention the main 2;

Labour – Bill Shorten

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You best believe I wasn’t going to put a serious picture up of this beautifully expressionate man. The Labour Party was originally meant to be for the family’s, unemployed or minimum wage workers. It’s about trying to look after the struggling people. All good things yeah? But the thing is the economy is a fluctuating thing, and Labour Party is terrible at managing finances, because they like giving money to the poor like the new age Robin Hood. But again, a capitalist system can’t function properly like that, hence why Labour doesn’t really get into power too often, because when they have they really fuck up royally when it comes to money. Also, they’re quite happy to shaft their own members in the back if they aren’t popular, look at both Kevin Rudd and Julia Gillard (a long complicated story that I don’t really know that well).

Liberal – Malcom Turnbull

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He’s a pretty rich, smug mother fucker. But at least he’s not Tony Abbott, and it was at least funny when they shafted Abbott to put Malcom there because of Abbott being so hated by everyone. They spent years critisizing labour for doing that, in fact it was that tactic that made liberal win, even with such a fuckhead as the leader. And now they had to do the same thing, haha. Liberal is the party for the workers. No one is equal, if you work harder, if you are a doctor or something, then you deserve more then a common factory worker. That’s liberals motto.

So I voted last election, and this’ll be my second year. I also mentioned there were like a fuck tonne of little parties. Well, you have the option of voting singular people from those parties onto the bench, that’s probably the closest way you can get to actually voting for who you want to vote for.

Thats why we have an above the line and below the line system. Above the line is like 10 choices you number the way you want to, below the line is every party choice with a box for your number, then you have to painstakingly remember which order to put the numbers. Because if you vote above the line, if you are not voting labour or liberal then your vote is pointless because the smaller parties all have preferences, so if you don’t know what they are you may vote Sex Party for example (real party, no joke), you may end up voting for liberal even if you didn’t want to because you didn’t check their preferences. If you want the little people at least be able to vote on ideas (which is about as much say as you yourself can get through voting) then you have to take those couple of hours research on the parties and vote below the line. If you’re in Australia and want to vote below the line this election, I will provide a link to a service that puts the party in your order of preference, then prints out the exact ballot paper with the numbers filled in so all you have to do is print it out and copy it onto the real ballot paper.

Now you can officially say, I voted in the best way I could. You’re welcome.

Below The Line, back up on the 10th

So yeah, that’s what I’ll have to do soon, yay! Think my vote will be the same as last year, Sex Party, Pirate Party, then the rest of them lol the website will figure it out.

One thing I am grateful for though is that our country is not effected in the slightest by what’s going on in America. Sometimes there’s perks to being part of the Commonwealth, this is one of them.

For now I’ll leave you with some Abbott stupid, it may not be Trump level, but at least it’s somewhat funnier and less scary that this man is leading the country and more like, fuck I wish he didn’t have to keep stirring up the Aborigines.

 

50 Shades of CENSORSHIP

This is the one argument that I  keep coming back to. There are so many debates I have such strong opinions about, most of them are a lot more relevant then this topic but I feel that out of all of them, this one I’m the most passionate about. I’m most passionate about this issue because I feel like this shouldn’t even be a debate, like it’s back tracking on all the progress that’s been made towards anti-censorship.

For anyone who has not read the book or seen the movie, I’m completely jealous of the fact you’re so blissfully unaware or I’m proud that you haven’t fed into the hype of this subject, but I guess for the purpose of this rant I mean ‘relevant passionate opinion’ I better tell you a brief synopsis. I am going to extract something from an unbiased source, just so you understand the intention of the author over the interpretations of the 50 shades of abuse people. (Ok, it’s virtually impossible to find an unbiased source on this subject, so here’s a brief extract in amongst the strong heated opinions)

Fifty Shades of Grey is the story of a college student, Anastasia, who begins a relationship with a 27 year old very successful and powerful businessman, Christian Grey, after interviewing him for her college newspaper. Ana loses her virginity to Christian, and he wants her to sign a non-disclosure agreement and a contract that keeps their relationship purely sexual and defines how their relationship as one of “dominance and submission. The novel plays on tension over the nature of their relationship and the possibility of romance and love as well as Ana’s sexual explorations.

By the way I have read the book but have not seen the film, nor did I bother to or read any other book in the trilogy. May I also note that this was written as fan-fiction to Twilight, I mean, come on, doesn’t that speak for itself? My honest opinion of the book is that it was a poorly written, over-sexed piece of shit excuse for adult literature. I think it’s pretty pathetic that it gained any sort of positive recognition in general let alone a franchise.

But it has, and yes it sucks but really, the book to blame here is Twilight, 50 Shades was just an extreme example of what spawns from the minds of desperate women who idolize crappy romance novels. It almost seems like one of those embarrassing fantasies that she happened to write down that wasn’t meant to be seen by the public and her jerk friend decided to steal the writing and send it into a publishing company and boom, instant publicity.

But if you read any romance novel, they’re kind of all pathetic like that in their own way. I don’t have anything against anyone that enjoys the romance genre, book or movie, I just don’t like it. I think the romance genre in general gives a false sense of what a healthy, realistic relationship is meant to be. But who the fuck reads fiction for realism? Might I remind everyone that 50 shades is fucking FICTION, you aren’t meant to take it fucking literally!

It’s not this book that scares me, it’s the reactions from intelligent females that feel so strongly against it. Just because you don’t like something does not give you the right to boycott it! And then there’s the opinions of the BDSM groups that have come out of the greasy shadows to get some sense moral high ground on the subject. Are you fucking kidding me? You make porn, what the hell right have you got to bitch about the supposed ‘bad name’ this book is giving you. Porn in general has a bad name. Porn has always been exploitation of women for the sole purpose of men getting off. Isn’t it sad that everything is so PC now that even the dirtiest of porn has to be about ‘love’ and ‘trust’. I don’t know about any of you but that’s not the reason I watch porn (and yeah I don’t have any issues with porn as it is what it is). Those two words are the last thing I want to hear about when I’m watching people do that shit to each other, that isn’t a turn on. It’s the same reason people watch porn, because nothing about it is realistic, porn is fantasy. If you don’t like it then don’t watch it but for fucks sake don’t censor it just because you disagree with it.

People keep missing the main point of the story too, when they talk about the abuse of it, and how she didn’t know any better and wasn’t explained the rules properly. She signed a fucking contract, who signs a contract without reading the fine print first! Actually in general, who signs a contract about dominance and submission without knowing what that actually entails! The thing about contracts is that it usually says everything in the fine print, it’s just that people are too lazy to read it and that’s kind of your own fault. Morale of the story, don’t sign contracts you don’t understand and aren’t prepared to research first.

What makes me even more sad is that these 50 shades of abuse people clearly think that women everywhere are fucking stupid. That everyone that disagrees with them are fucking stupid, or we hate women. Lets get one thing straight.

I AM NOT ANTI-FEMINISM, I AM ANTI CENSORSHIP!

Are we going to go back to the good old days where we burn all the books in a big book burning ceremony? The thought makes me shudder. Even the shittiest of books and ideas doesn’t deserve that. The world is never going to be what people want it to be, there are just too many differences of opinion on how the world should work. If you start censoring one thing, then everyone has the right to censor what they want to censor then there goes our freedom of speech.

You may think I’m being dramatic, but I think wanting to boycott a book/movie is far more dramatic because people think that a book is going to influence the way girls perceive a healthy relationship. This book has not made an impact of how terrible young girls self esteems are. This book is not going to change the way relationships work. Feminism has come a long way and because of those brave women we do have a chance to be treated as equal in this world. I agree, it’s not quite there yet but it’s a lot better then what it was 50 years ago. I also agree that that’s a pretty weak argument but banning a franchise is not going to help either. Education was and always will be the key to making a difference.

I’ve been told that I don’t understand the difference between censorship and a boycott. For the record, I understand that boycotting something is not censoring it, it’s just encouraging people in an intimidating manner to agree with their opinion and refuse to do something like read the book or watch the movie… Because that doesn’t sound just as fucked up…

Censorship is wrong. Censorship is ruining it for everyone else just because you’re too lazy to educate your kids about the importance of your own morals. Censorship is forcing your own opinion on someone that has a different opinion to you. Censorship is evil and wrong. By all means, disagree with something, I hate a lot of things too, but don’t force people to agree with you. Write about it, blog about, bitch about but don’t ever tell me what I should and should not read. Oh, and stop making people who actually enjoy the book feel like martyrs that don’t support women’s rights!